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Also, try staying away from long "breaks" in between relationships, for they often waste time, and timing here is of the essence (especially for women & their "biological clock"). It's important to shorten your long list of expectations & "necessary pre-conditions" as much as possible, for this isn't "Amazon", and the right guy for you inevitably doesn't have "everything" and isn't perfect, just as you are not. Shlomo HaMelech advises that "finding favor in someone's eyes" is often surprising & unexpected (see Kohelet 9, 11). Just look for basic compatibility (e.g. similar ideals, making Aliya…) and mutual fondness, but every experienced couple will tell you that anyway, the real relationship is "built" davka AFTER the marriage, with hard work and conscious efforts of constant giving.
Similarly, it's definitely an advantage if his parents have a good marriage & you both come from similar backgrounds. I may add that altruism, caring and loyalty are important characteristics for building a good marriage, and those aren't just traits to look for in others, but also attributes to consciously acquire yourself & show him/her that you possess.
I'll just add that in addition to the importance of praying to Hashem for help, this week's parsha teaches us not a "Segula", but something that Hashem promises can literally help the singles! Kohanim can help here, for the 2nd of their 3 brachot finishes "ויחוניך", "and you shall find favor in the eyes of others". Kohanim should definitely have this meaning in mind, as Hashem tells them (Bamidbar 6, 23-27): "כה תברכו את בני ישראל... ואני אברכם", "so shall you bless Bnei Yisrael, and [G-d] will bless them". Obviously the singles should show up to shul as often as possible (in Israel every day, and abroad, on Festivals) in order to daven, as well as to receive this G-dly bracha! Shabbat Shalom & B'Sha'ah Tova!! Rav Ari Shvat (Chwat)
Rabbi Ari Shvat
Lectures at various yeshivot, michlalot and midrashot. Has published many books & Torani articles and is in charge of Rav Kook’s archives.
Ein Aya Practical Tricks How Not to Accept Gossip by Giving the Benefit of the Doubt
Ayn Aya, Shabbat v, 65
The Giving of the Torah When Should We Use Facts, Logic or Kabbala in Learning Torah?
Ein Aya Shabbat 4 7
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Shoftim TESHUVA IN COURT OF LAW?
Parshat Shoftim-Chodesh Elul
Why does parshat Shoftim always come out during Elul? This innovative and central explanation is an eye-opener regarding many aspects of Judaism.
The Month of Elul TESHUVA IS THE ANSWER
The month of Elul serves as a vital time for self-reflection and personal accountability to prepare for true repentance.
P'ninat Mishpat P'ninat Mishpat: Realtor’s Fee on Large Commercial Building – part I
(based on ruling 85031 of the Eretz Hemdah-Gazit Rabbinical Courts)
(based on ruling 85031 of the Eretz Hemdah-Gazit Rabbinical Courts)
P'ninat Mishpat Complaints about Contractor’s Work – part II
(based on ruling 83037.1 of the Eretz Hemdah-Gazit Rabbinical Courts)
(based on ruling 83037.1 of the Eretz Hemdah-Gazit Rabbinical Courts)
Chemdat Yamim Moreshet Shaul: The Goal of an Agricultural Yeshiva – part I
Based on Siach Shaul, Pirkei Machshava V’Hadracha p. 263 (address at the laying of the cornerstone of the Yeshiva Chakla’it in Kfar Haroeh)
Based on Siach Shaul, Pirkei Machshava V’Hadracha p. 263 (address at the laying of the cornerstone of the Yeshiva Chakla’it in Kfar Haroeh)
Chemdat Yamim The Goal of an Agricultural Yeshiva – part II
Based on Siach Shaul, Pirkei Machshava V’Hadracha p. 263 (address at the cornerstone laying for the Yeshiva Chakla’it in Kfar Haroeh – 1938)
Based on Siach Shaul, Pirkei Machshava V’Hadracha p. 263 (address at the cornerstone laying for the Yeshiva Chakla’it in Kfar Haroeh – 1938)
Re'e NEVER EXTREME EXCEPT ISRAEL
Parshat Re'eh
Judaism is against extremism, so how can we understand the seemingly extreme statements found in our sages in favor of living in the Land of Israel and against living in Chutz laAretz? The article deals with the seeming contradiction between the strength of Free-Will and the strength of being influenced by our surroundings.
Ekev DANCE FOR ISRAEL- FOR YOUR BENEFIT
Parshat Eikev
Description: The 7 Haftarot we read after Tisha B'Av ("Shiva D'Nichemta") surely get us excited that they're coming TRUE, and awaken us to yearn, dance & join the return to Zion! The short article also deals with the problems and solutions facing the American Jewish community as discussed at a recent panel, as well as the question why Jews come from America to Israel to help when we face problems, but Israelis don't come to aid Jews in America when they face anti-Semitism.
