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A. It is truly gladdening to know that your husband has taken this significant step of coming from an anti-religious family to build a traditional home. This is not an easy process, and he certainly deserves much admiration.
It's important to know that marriage requires great investment and effort. When one spouse undergoes a change towards the other side - in this case, your husband coming towards you Jewishly - it is important not to take this for granted. It could very well be, as I have seen many times, that for him, it still requires great effort to remain on this "new" spiritual level. Therefore, every encouragement you can give him - and certainly no displays of disappointment in him! - can only strengthen him and help him along even further.
And so, with all your good intentions that he continues to advance more and more, you must not pressure him, but rather accept him "where he is" with appreciation.
I addition, the two of you together have accomplished something great; rejoice in it and value it!
Only when you feel that another step further won't be too hard for him, and he feels ready to embrace it, should you "push" for it. Until then, you must have lots and lots of patience. That's the name of the game.
The next stage is to create a strong basis for the next advancement. This basis must be a good feeling between the two of you, a lot of serenity, and happiness. From here can sprout a desire and ability to delve further into Torah observance.
The stage after that is to think together how else you can progress Jewishly as a family. Usually something relatively not-demanding will be easier to adopt. Tefillin, for instance, is a very important mitzvah, and could be a good "next step" - but you must remember that it is "his" step and not "yours" as a couple. He's the one who has to do it! Therefore, a "next step," I would advise that you choose something that you can do together, and this will strengthen both your Jewish experience and your marriage.
Remember, patience can bring great rewards.
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Kuzari -Rabbi Ari Shvat Kuzari class 9 - "Seeing is Believing" (parag. 21-30)
These paragraphs elaborate on the theme that seeing and knowing is better than any attempt to prove logically, and begins explaining the difference between Israel and gentiles.
Ein Aya Various Universal Stages of the Geula Process
Rav Kook examines the various stages of redemption, explaining how (in addition to the obvious oft-mentioned stages of ingathering the exiles, reviving the Hebrew language, army, state etc.) the messianic dream of world prosperity, the State of Israel and world unity can and are realistically and logically gradually coming true.
Kuzari -Rabbi Ari Shvat Kuzari class 8- "Answering Questions on the Kuzari's Proof from Mass Revelation
How do we know that the "claim" of mass revelation to 2,000,000 witnesses at Mt. Sinai is really true? This important class answers all of the questions skeptics ask about this claim of the Kuzari.
Ein Aya Armies Still Necessary for Balance & the War Against Wars
Rav Kook explains why the world was originally divided into the various seemingly contradicting ideologies and cultures, in order to develop each one respectively. Swords or armies symbolize how each respective ideology defends themselves, as well as deters their opposing ideologies and cultures. On the other hand, the messianic era will be one of peace, and Rav Kook explains the transition to that stage, which mankind is already undergoing.
The Land of Israel LGBT'S IN ISRAEL
The question was asked, how can one make Aliyah with the LGBT parades?
Kuzari -Rabbi Ari Shvat Kuzari class 7 - Five Accumulative Proofs of G-d
As a preparation for the Kuzari's classic proof of G-d from the mass-revelation at Sinai, we start here with 5 other directions to strengthen our belief which also contribute to what the Kuzari will present as well.
Ein Aya Muscle & Meaning: The Dual Nature of Gevurah (Physical Strength)
Is physical strength and fitness a necessity or an ideal? Although it if often totally overlooked among topics of Judaism, Rav Kook writes that it clearly is also a necessity to deter the many enemies of Israel, but even in Y'mot HaMashiach, in the Messianic era, to a certain extent, it's ideal continues even after our enemies will have been finished off.
