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A. It is truly gladdening to know that your husband has taken this significant step of coming from an anti-religious family to build a traditional home. This is not an easy process, and he certainly deserves much admiration.
It's important to know that marriage requires great investment and effort. When one spouse undergoes a change towards the other side - in this case, your husband coming towards you Jewishly - it is important not to take this for granted. It could very well be, as I have seen many times, that for him, it still requires great effort to remain on this "new" spiritual level. Therefore, every encouragement you can give him - and certainly no displays of disappointment in him! - can only strengthen him and help him along even further.
And so, with all your good intentions that he continues to advance more and more, you must not pressure him, but rather accept him "where he is" with appreciation.
I addition, the two of you together have accomplished something great; rejoice in it and value it!
Only when you feel that another step further won't be too hard for him, and he feels ready to embrace it, should you "push" for it. Until then, you must have lots and lots of patience. That's the name of the game.
The next stage is to create a strong basis for the next advancement. This basis must be a good feeling between the two of you, a lot of serenity, and happiness. From here can sprout a desire and ability to delve further into Torah observance.
The stage after that is to think together how else you can progress Jewishly as a family. Usually something relatively not-demanding will be easier to adopt. Tefillin, for instance, is a very important mitzvah, and could be a good "next step" - but you must remember that it is "his" step and not "yours" as a couple. He's the one who has to do it! Therefore, a "next step," I would advise that you choose something that you can do together, and this will strengthen both your Jewish experience and your marriage.
Remember, patience can bring great rewards.
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Kuzari -Rabbi Ari Shvat Kuzari class 5- "Proofs of G-d"
This may be the most important class of the entire book, where we finally get to the Jewish proof of the existence of G-d and truth of the Torah. We should follow His own direction where He tells us how to get to Him: through the Nation of Israel: Jewish history, Jewish prophets (and today, prophecies fulfilled), and national reward & punishment towards Am Yisrael.
Ein Aya One Humanity, One Creator, One Jerusalem
Rav Kook innovatively and beautifully explains this aggadeta where our sages say that after Jerusalem was destroyed her cinnamon fragrance is only found locked in a particular kingdom's treasury.
Shlach Lecha "Why So Many Don't Make Aliya?" - Parshat Shlach
This short article deals with the weird phenomena that every single time Am Yisrael is meant to enter the Land of Israel, throughout the Tanach, 2nd Temple and until today, they "chicken out" and look for excuses. What's the problem with this mitzvah that proves so challenging. The article, based on sources, suggests that the difficulties of Eretz Yisrael is precisely her secret and beauty!
Kuzari -Rabbi Ari Shvat Kuzari class 4
The class deals with Islam and how the Muslim tries convincing the King of the Khazars, and why he was also rejected.
Beha'alotcha JEWISH STATE= GUIDE TO G-DLINESS & SELFLESSNESS
A Jewish State not only is a good idea, but educates us towards selflessness, altruism and G-dliness in our daily lives.
Ein Aya In Zion Even the Smoke of the Bark is Sweet
Just as Jewish nationalism is different from others, so too our capitol of Jerusalem is totally different than other national capitols. Rav Kook beautifully explains the passage in the Talmud that the trees of Yerushalayim were cinnamon trees.
Kuzari -Rabbi Ari Shvat Kuzari class 3
The second speaker invited to convince the Khazar King is the Christian, who presents their beliefs. Even before the questions of the King, "between the lines", the author R. Yehuda HaLevi already begins disproving them.
Ein Aya "Intimacy: Love, Life & Giving or Egocentric Taking & Expiration"
Today, many confuse between intimacy in marriage, based on love, giving and life which are diametrically opposed to empty "sex", pornography and prostitution which destroyed the Beit HaMikdash. The practical importance of clarifying this topic in today's western society is obvious, especially for young adults.
