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Dear Rabbi,
Thanks for looking at my question.
My parents had a daughter, Leah, who died several years before I was born.
I have two older brothers who were alive during Leahs life and old enough to have memories of her. My brothers observe Leahs Yahrtzeit and say Kaddish.
Since I was not born when Leah passed, I have never said Kaddish and considered that I have "official" Yahrzeit. (I usually go to shul with my dad and/or brothers and visit my mum) but I dont do the "formal" Yahrzeit actions. I am curious what the halachic perspective on this is? Should I observe a full yahrzeit?
Thanks very much for your time.
Answer
Shalom U'vracha,
The yahrtzeit customs were instituted basically for children to observe the anniversary of the passing of their parents. A brother does not generally observe yahrtzeit practices and customs such as fasting and reciting kaddish.
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