Beit Midrash

  • Family and Society
  • Coping with Difficulties
קטגוריה משנית
To dedicate this lesson
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Over the past two weeks two friends of mine passed away. One was a student of mine who was raised in my synagogue in Monsey, New York and went on to become a fine Torah scholar and teacher. He was but 52 years old when a heart attack took him to a better world. A second friend was a distinguished rabbi of a well-known leading rabbinical family who died after being comatose for a few weeks after being hit by a moving vehicle. He was a person of years and experience, clever and efficient in all ways. Death is almost always an unwelcome guest and certainly usually an inconvenient one as well. Our mortality, which is our reality, constantly haunts us through our lives. The challenge is not to allow that reality to so affect our lives that we become obsessed with it to the point that we are depressed, frightened and non-productive. The Torah in its famous statement has advised us to always choose life. By that the Torah meant that in spite of all of the blows, losses and tragedies that are unavoidable in human existence, we must always choose life in order to continue to fulfill our purpose on this earth. Resilience, looking forwards and not backwards, not dwelling on what might have been but rather on what may yet be, is the key component of a Jewish personal and national existence. Dealing with the reality of our mortality and yet living life to its fullest in a productive and spiritual manner is the purpose of all Jewish tradition and study.
In Judaism, human mortality is tempered by the belief in the eternal immortality of our souls. Though there is no specific superficial mention of this concept in the Torah’s text itself, the rabbis of the Talmud have brought numerous proofs and support to the idea from a careful examination of words and juxtaposition of words in that text. The Talmud saw our existence in this world as naturally being a temporary one but that eternity and Heavenly judgment await us after our physical demise. The phrase that is used to describe this transition from earthly living to the eternal realm of the soul is "that one strips away one form of existence and assumes another form of existence." Though there are numerous metaphors that exist in Talmudic and rabbinic literature as to how this other form of existence looks, no definite and unanimous description of this eternal world is given to us except that it is purely spiritual and related to the soul’s connection with the Creator. Nevertheless, the very idea and belief in the immortality of the soul is one of the great ideas and comforts of Judaism and Jewish life. Death is not a black hole that consumes all. Rather life is our opportunity to gain immortality and eternity. This infuses life and living with a greater purpose than merely physical gain and pleasure. It gives our behavior here in this world cosmic importance and eternal value. Thus life and living become doubly important for the consequences of our behavior reach beyond time and space and this earth and its vicissitudes.
We all pray and hope for long life and healthy years. Length of life is a relative value. King Solomon in Kohelet refers to "days that are no longer desirable." He also mentions there that length of life is not necessarily an absolute value. "Even if a human lives a thousand years" there is little gain for that type of longevity. It should be noted that Solomon himself, according to Jewish tradition, only lived for 52 years. The quest for immortality lies deep within all of us. We all have a desire not to be forgotten by later generations and descendants. Much of the pursuit of fame and honor in this world is in essence a pursuit of immortality and the remembrance of later generations. Monuments and gravesites are part of this desire to be eternally remembered even when we are no longer here. But again the Torah warns us "not to turn to the dead." The Torah is firmly planted in life, in the here and now, in its never ending challenges and problems, achievements and struggles. It allows us no room for morbidity and depression. God is to be served in this world in happiness and purpose. The reality of the human condition is well known and omnipresent to us. But it is not to be permanently dwelled upon for otherwise life can never progress and inspire. We should always remember to "choose life."
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    Yitro

    Only Those Who Live In The Land Love G-d

    The Torah threatens punishment for idol-worshipers that is only 1/500th of the reward that the righteous will receive: "Concerning My enemies, I keep in mind the fathers' sins for their descendants, [only] to the 3rd and 4th generations. But for those who love Me and keep My commandments, I show love for [at least two] thousands of generations" (Sh'mot 20,5-6). The punishment is for four generations, and the reward for 2,000 generations. But the question we would like to address is: Why are the righteous termed both "those who love Me" and "those who keep My commandments?" Is not one enough?

    Rabbi Moshe Tzuriel | Shvat 19 5783
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    3 min
    Shlach Lecha

    For God's Sake Don't Go To Israel

    Israel National Torah

    Clarifying the spies' argument for not entering the Land of Israel...and then clarifying why it's so important to enter the Land anyway.

    Baruch Gordon | Sivan 19 5780
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    Bemare Habazak - Rabbis Questions

    Serving as Chazan on the Shabbat Before a Yahrtzeit

    How important is it for someone to be chazan on the Shabbat before a yahrtzeit? Is it is just for parents, or also grandparents/in laws? Some people in my [the rabbi] shul feel that people use it as an excuse to “grab the amud.”

    Rabbi Daniel Mann | Tevet 2 5777
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    Bemare Habazak - Rabbis Questions

    How Many Eggs Should be Boiled Together?

    When making hardboiled eggs, may one cook one or two eggs or must there be at least three? Also, does it make a difference if there is an even or odd number

    Rabbi Daniel Mann
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    P'ninat Mishpat

    Introduction and Biography of the Noda B’Yehuda

    After an extended period of presenting ideas of the Chatam Sofer on monetary disputes, we move on to a shorter series on the works of Rav Yechezkel Segal Landau, often called the Noda B’yehuda. (Although Rav Landau served as a dayan for many years, poskim do not usually publicize their rulings on cases in which they served as a dayan, but on questions asked by other rabbis. The Noda B’yehuda did not include many such cases in his reponsa.) Many view the Chatam Sofer and the Noda B’Yehuda as two of a kind. They were in the same basic time period (Rav Landau was around 50 years older), they were important rabbis of important communities at critical times, and the works of each are among the most respected and quoted by Acharonim.

    Various Rabbis | Tevet 8 5776
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    Bemare Habazak - Rabbis Questions

    Working in a Non-Kosher Establishment

    Rabbi Daniel Mann | Sivan 14 5775
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    Prayer

    Birkot HaShachar – The Morning Blessings

    Chapter nine-part one

    Chapter nine-part one

    Rabbi Eliezer Melamed | 5775
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    Jewish Holidays

    The Twentieth of Sivan

    "I noticed that the back of my siddur contains a large section devoted to selichos for the 20th of Sivan, yet I have never davened in a shul that observed this day. What does this date commemorate?"

    Rabbi Yirmiyohu Kaganoff | Sivan 17 5780
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    Additional Lessons

    The Laws of Tumas Meis

    When the Beis Hamikdash is rebuilt, bimheirah beyameinu, the laws of tumah will affect us all, since we will be required to be tahor in order to enter the Beis Hamikdash, to eat korbanos and maaser sheini, and in order to separate challah and terumah.

    Rabbi Yirmiyohu Kaganoff | 5772
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    Basics of Financial Laws

    How Does a Heter Iska Work?

    What is the prohibition of "Ribbit"? who does it apply on? How does the "Heter Iska" bypass the prohibition? and more...

    Rabbi Yirmiyohu Kaganoff | 5770
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    Marriage and Relationships

    Relationships during the Time of Engagement

    A young engaged man and his fiancée naturally have very strong feelings for each other. It goes without saying that these will be expressed after the wedding, but what expression, if any, is permitted in the meantime? And while we're on the subject, is the attraction of men and women to each other really a good thing to begin with?

    Rabbi Elyakim Levanon | 5770
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    Other Great Leaders

    That a Cohen May Not Marry a Divorcee

    A few days later, a royal emissary of the Empress Maria Teresa appeared at the rabbi’s home. The surprised rabbi realized that the wealthy Jew had broken the convention by which Jews did not involve non-Jews in their inner disputes. He had no choice.

    Rabbi Shmuel Holshtein | 5769
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