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I live in Mexico city and I am during the shloshim of my father zl. I don’t have a job because i lost it to take care of my father during his illnes. I want to say kadish all year but the jobs I found are with non observants people so i cant guarantee I will be able to say Kadish every day. What should I do? Thanks
First of all my condolences to you. Your dedication and Kibud Av is a great merit and a very important example to many. I assume you know that is the best merit for your deceased father z"l to have his son son say Kaddish. (Rema yoreh De'ah 376:4) However, Rav Mordechai Eliyahu zt"l wrote that in a case where one can't not say kaddish, if you have another brother who says kaddish then that is sufficient. However, if you are the only one who can say kaddish and you cannot say kadish when at work, you should find someone to say kaddish instead of you and pay him and make him your shaliach to say Kaddish.(Tzror Hachaim section 177) It seems that according to the Magen Avraham, it is a greater merit for the deceased when the person is paid. (Magen Avraham 132:2, see alsp Mourning in Halacha chap 39 n. 51). Besorot tovot. May Hashem bestow Smachot upon you and may you easily find a job with an available minyan.