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Question
I learned that we are not to address
people by using nicknames (derogotory)
but are we permitted to address oiur
husband or friend in an endearing
term such as "honey" or "dear"?
I am so accustomed to using
these terms to address those I love and
also new people I meet or
talk to on the phone and I thought
that these are endearing and
loving ways to address people.
I just learned of the Halacha
about nicknames and I never
want to violate Halacha and I
want to do the right thing
Rabbi, thank you so much for your
help to me
Answer
Firstly, let me tell you i am touched at how important halacha is to you and how much you take it to heart.
In terrms of nicknames - any name which is derogratory, has negative conotations, or even is positive but not liked by your friend/husband - is forbidden.
Therefore calling someone you love 'honey' or 'dear' when this word is appreciated is permitted.
Furthermore. calling one another nicknames like these which increase love between husband and wife are not only allowed but are reccomended!
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