Ask the Rabbi
- Family and Society
- Death and Mourning
- Burial and the Cemetery
Question
Why do we put a stone on a grave when we visit it?
Answer
A stone on a grave makes the point that you have visited the grave and furthermore builds up a matzeva. Once, the matzeva was not the concrete slab that it is today, but made up of a pile of stones constantly added onto by people who visited the grave and placed stones on the grave site. Without the additional stones, gradually the wind and weather etc. would cause the grave site not to be noticed.

Netilat Yadayim after visiting a cemetery
Rabbi Yirmiyohu Kaganoff | Elul 22, 5769

Onein saying Kaddish
Rabbi David Sperling | Tishrei 8, 5773




