- Family and Society
- The Mitzva of Having Children
Having More Children
Dear Rabbi We have, Thank G-d, been blessed with four healthy children, including a boy and girl. My wife wants to continue having more children but I myself would prefer not to try to have any more. My main reasons for feeling this way is as follows. Firstly, we are already struggling financially as things stand, and although I am aware of a teaching from our Sages to the contrary, I find that our expenses, which include food, clothing, tuition, travel expenses, Bar Mitzvah (if a boy), Weddings etc. increase with every additional child. Secondly, I am extremely grateful that all are children so far are health and don’t want to `push my luck too far`, so I would prefer not to try for more, so as to avoid any such possibility. I would be very grateful to hear what you have to say on the matter. Many thanks.
Shlomo Hamelech (King Solomon), the wisest of men said: In the morning plant your plants, in the evening don't rest, you cannot know which will be better this or that or that both are good. What is there to add? If your wife wants more children it is a blessing and Hashem will bless you. Chazal advise: Put your trust in Hashem, and he will assist you financially. There is no enjoyment greater then having children. Many blessings, Rabbi Zalman Baruch Melamed