- Family and Society
- Bar and Bat Mitzva
- Shabbat and Holidays
- Sfirat Ha'omer Customs
Question
I’ve seen a question stating that you can listen to music for the purpose of a Mitzva - does that include a Bar mitzva?
As a Bar mitzva date is predetermined at birth and is the main Mitzva for a lot of families, it would seem yes.
Answer
The music that is allowed according to some authorities is that which will lead towards a stronger bond with Hashem and will enhance the love and fear of G-d.
The music in a Bar Mitzvah Party is usually for joy and dancing, which should not take place during the days of the Omer counting (there are different customs about which days of the Omer period). (See Igrot Moshe OC 1, 166)
If the party is on the day the child turns thirteen in which case it qualifies a Seudat Mitzvah, and the music is of the nature described above one can follow a lenient approach and allow the music. (See Shulchan Aruch OC 493 and commentators.)

Bar Mitzvah Rabbinical Judaism
Rabbi Yoel Lieberman | Av 5, 5780

Selecting the Parasha of Bar Mitzvah
Rabbi Elchanan Lewis | 6 Cheshvan 5765

Tefillin Before Bar Mitzvah
Rabbi Jonathan Blass | 28 Av 5764

Tefillin bar mitzvah
Various Rabbis | 9 Cheshvan 5768

Are Muslims Noahides?
Rabbi Ari Shvat | Shevat 6, 5781

Chicken fell on treif stove
Rabbi Yoel Lieberman | Sivan 25, 5783

Siblings vacationing in same room/bed
Rabbi Ari Shvat | Iyyar 12, 5771
