Why does one break a plate and distribute the pieces to non-married friends of the bride and groom at the "Vort" for an engaged couple? Meaning and origin?
The Elia Raba writes that the purpose of this custom is to make sure we remember that Yerushalaim is in ruins also at our most joyous times. The pieces are given out to the people attending as a reminder. Rabbi Ro'i Margalit